Are We Walking Our Talk ?
This morning the Abraham quote came in and it gave me real cause to think because this issue has been cropping up in my life lately. Here is the quote which clearly creates a different context for me about understanding the Law of Attraction.
If you feel drawn to someone, but you are annoyed because you think that they are telling you some lies, try to look beyond the lies and try to focus upon the feeling. People offer all kinds of words for all kinds of different reasons. Most lies are offered to try to keep things in alignment. We’re not encouraging it, but the motive behind lying is usually a pretty honorable motive. In other words, when a child lies to their parents, it’s usually because they want to be free to do what they want to do, and they don’t want their parents to be upset about it. It’s about wanting an alignment. Physical ears have a hard time hearing this. You keep talking about “We need to be honest.” And we say, we don’t meet any of you who are honest. Even those who claim to be the most virtuous, are not honest, but your vibration always is. We would trust the feeling more than the words.
— Abraham
Particularly, what I find most interesting and poignant is the statement:
Even those who claim to be the most virtuous, are not honest, but your vibration always is. We would trust the feelings more than the words.
It brings cause within me to question my own words in retrospect.
How many times have my words been out of alignment with my actions? It makes me consider that I talk about authenticity yet how often do I live authentically?
How many times have I had a clear intention to “DO” something or follow through on something, and communicated that intention fully expecting to be in alignment with my words (at the outset) and then for some unexpected reason, not followed through.
What resonates within me around this thought is that there are many times.
And what aggravates me about others is when they tell me something they know is not true.
Yet as I reflect, it occurs to me that many times what I said to be true “about upcoming events” or “what my sincere intentions were about them” were – in the end – not true.
When to Say No…
This also brings to mind the idea of commitment and the willingness to say “no”.
Perhaps, this ties into “trying to be a pleaser” in our lives. As a boy I remember so many times experiencing a sense of never being able to please. Through the work I have been doing over the last two years in Core Health, I have actually cleared the energy glitches around trying to please everybody else.
As I go deeper with myself around this connection, I realize in some ways I have not yet “naturalized those clearings” in my behavior. It is improving yet not complete.
While my energy no longer glitches, my behavior still does at times because it was such a deep seated pattern for so many years.
I just realized something about myself – an A-HAH moment…
Abraham’s statement clearly shows to me that one of the reasons I get aggravated with others who don’t tell me the truth (knowing that what they are saying is inaccurate) is that I do the same thing – unknowingly – in a different context.
The difference in the context is that time does not change the accuracy of the language we use expressing our intentions.
And here is the A-HAH part:
This is kind of a personal transformation for me.
My circumstances and events may shift dramatically yet my “stated intentions remain the same” until I change those to match. It just occurred to me that when the situations shift – as they often do:
- It is my responsibility to re-state my intentions – and preferences – about the anticipated outcomes and
- BE CERTAIN to communicate my re-statements to those who are relying on my original stated intentions.
Understanding The New Context…
So with this new understanding of context, there is new clarity for me:
- It is my responsibility both to communicate to those who are relying upon my word about an intention (or that I have made a specific commitment to)
- And it is also my responsibility to re-communicate them when the situation (or the context within which the original commitments were made) changes
so that we can all adjust our perspective on the outcomes and what our preferences are around those outcomes.
I get that this is:
- Both a new understanding about the quality of my communication with others
- And this is also a big component about following through on a commitment
Within this new context, it clearly becomes my responsibility not to over-commit and to say no when necessary about specific time frames and obligations to others.
This New Context Requires:
- Greater clarity about how I use my time and
- Adhering to better organization and
- Being more practical and
- A higher standard of accountability in my communication process
- Shifting from relying on expectations to being clear about preferences
This certainly ties to the statements:
- “The road to hell is paved with good intentions.”
- “A Warrior’s Word is His Bond.”
I know this: I AM a Warrior
My New Preferences Are:
- Things are going to change around this.
- I Chose to Walk My Talk – to walk in alignment with my intentions and commitments.
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